When I mention that I am in the process of becoming a surrogate, people are shocked, surprised, and the question always comes up: wait what !?

The answer is pretty simple, but let me walk you through what got me into this, and why I chose (yes you heard that right chose) to become a surrogate.

My hubby and I have friends and family who have struggled with infertility. So one day, I told my hubby that since (maybe TMI here) we are very fertile, it would feel amazing to give a baby to someone who couldn’t have one. We know they would be wonderful parents because they truly want this baby, and helping someone achieve what they can’t would be incredibly fulfilling.

Now the next question to this is, okay but how do you bring it up to friends or family? Saying,
“Hey you can’t really have a baby, so because we are very fertile, let me carry one for you, would that be cool?” isn’t exactly an easy conversation. It’s not something you can just casually mention if they haven’t shared details about their struggles. Plus, the process of becoming a surrogate or intended parent is quite complex, and I wanted to work through an agency if we decided to go this route.

So I kinda stopped thinking about it, but during the last months of my last pregnancy, I kept seeing ads about surrogacy everywhere. I had never seriously considered it before, besides the thought of maybe carrying a baby for friends, but now it was in my mind constantly and in front of my face to be honest on social media at all times.  I discussed it more with my husband, who felt it wasn’t worth it unless it was for our friends. However, I examined all the aspects: being pregnant again, getting paid for it, and not having to care for another baby (to be clear, we’re done having kids), while also helping a family.

All of the boxes checked out to be a surrogate. It was a win-win-win situation all around. I loved being pregnant, I never had issues during pregnancy, I loved the way people treat you when you’re pregnant, I didn’t want any more babies, I get paid to be pregnant again, and on top of it all I get to give a baby to a family that cannot have one. How amazing is that!?

Of course, there are risks to pregnancy, every pregnancy is different, and it is not a walk in the park for most people, but for me it is something that I truly enjoy, which is why I wanted to pursue this. I’m just starting this journey as I write this, but if you’re curious about surrogacy or have questions, feel free to ask! I’m an open book! If you want to follow my journey, connect with me on social media right here or contact my agency here (mention that Myriam sent you). I would love to go through this journey with you and share this experience with you!

Make sure you join my group here. It is filled with resources and support for military spouses and moms just like you! See what it’s about, here’s the link:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/militaryspousesbeyondborders

I will see you on the inside!

Myriam Imhoff is currently the CEO of Myriam Imhoff. She specializes in helping stay at home foreign and military moms navigate the gunk of American products. But also helping women who are seeking a path that will provide the time, freedom, and financial resources necessary for them to enjoy a fulfilled and happy life. For more information on healthier products, chemical free cleaning products or potential to build a residual income visit www.myriam-imhoff.com.